Yes me too,
I went to see the movie today with 3 more friends/ladies 2 of them moms like me, what makes us falls into the book’s category of mom porn which bothered me for several reasons, first I had to go around the fact that I would force myself to find a 27-30 year old guy attractive, being over 40 it never occurred to me, mainly because I tend to find men who are at least old enough not to be almost my kids attractive.
It also bothered me because I am for our rights, I like when my husband opens the car door for me -yep he still does that for almost 20 years- I also like when he does the driving, the wine picking, but that’s pretty much it, never turned on to spanking or any of that. I am surely not into pain and pleasure, but I don’t judge others, who am I to?
So people think I was into that because I both read the Trilogy and went to see the movie? Isn’t that obvious? I read the book series which was lent to me, I got curious and got carried away so the first book lead to the second that had to finish on the third. Then there was the movie let’s go see what they have done to it.
Did I like it?
Neh, too shallow, so you take a book that is not well written-I know I know- but yet captivates millions of women (mainly over 40 like me) and make it even a worse movie? Of course that was more to it than BD&SM, though the movie did not exploit that either, it introduced to it, I think, and did it not show how she was caught in the web of pure seduction, fetishism, fanaticism that is in ‘devoting to a person’s body’. A good illustration to it is this talented musician Sam Smith he goes and writes this song “Stay with me”, nice and all but next sentence he goes like “you are all I need”, cool, but in real life I would run fast and far, this guy would stick to you like a maniac, crazy glue and all, he would call and manipulate you 24/7. This is what it is all about.
Anyway the feeling I had was that they torn the whole book threw the pages into the air and the ones they picked -by chance- were the scenes they decided to write the script out.
Yeah, enough said, it won’t change my mind, as I heard a guy on an interview saying “this book will change your wife”. My life should be pretty empty for that to happen. I might crochet something based on one of the books, I don’t know yet maybe the cover of the book or something, not a whip though for sure.
What I liked about the book is the complexity of character and the innocent girl thinking she could ‘rescue’ him, she kind of did, because it is fiction and ‘love’ prevailed, and the way he worships her all through the trilogy. Some of us women have tried to love and save the bad guy we were once with, and we all know what happens. We can’t. We just don’t have this power.
Bottom line is I come back home, after a nice time out with my friends, to my dear beloved hard to have found husband, lover, and friend who unquestionably showed me 50-whole- colors of love and being loved-not only shades.
You take care,